Is Your Student Also an Athlete?

Many students are also athletes and sometimes there is a fine line between competition and fun. It is great to be successful in the sport of your choice and give your best effort but it becomes a negative effect when it becomes solely focused on success and the fun of the sport which is what initially drew you to it is gone.

Q. My students can get so upset after losing a game and I feel bad for them. Is there anything I can or should do?
A. We learn a lot about life in general and adversity in particular in sports. We learn about failure and how we can deal with it. Our students shouldn't be protected from their feelings and we should let them feel them. A couple of days later, it would be more appropriate to talk to them about how sports relates to life and how they can best deal with the inevitable ups and downs.

Q. Is there a way that I can help my student have more sportsmanship?
A. The best way to teach your student is always through your actions rather than words. Do you let little setbacks in life throw you into a tizzy? Or have you learned to 'roll' with the ups and downs of life more constructively? Remember that your kids are constantly observing how you react to things in life and learn more from what you do than what you say.

Q. How can I help my student keep sports in the proper perspective?
A. Parents can do this by showing their support and coming to watch their games. Be positive and don't dwell on who won or lost. Be a good role model and don't be the obnoxious parent in the stands. Remember, it's about them, not you and so you need to keep your perspective. Have fun and encourage your student to do the same. Chances are your student isn't the star, but they are making new friends, learning new skills and hopefully gaining attitudes that will help them throughout their lives.
 posted by Jane